How to Make a Decision

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I’m so happy to be with you for another week of Sacred Women’s Business. This comes to you with unconditional love, acceptance and grace. This comes to you with a deep abiding respect for the courage it takes you, conscious woman, to really step forward and do the work you are here to do. This comes with a deep reverence for the fact that when we are prepared to work on ourselves, we often find ourselves having to face aspects of ourselves that might be less than desirable, difficult, negative, stubborn, unyielding and damaged.

The truth is, you are perfectly whole and complete. The only thing that has usually been damaged is the perception that you are somehow faulty, in need of healing or repair. I will always make a stand for you and I am committed to holding you in your ideal vision, perfectly whole and complete.

Many of my clients have described a deep sadness and anger, that they have self-sacrificed, self-abandoned or decided to give up on their dreams in some way, because they simply didn’t want to a) be a burden on another b) incur criticism from another or c) be rejected. Many of my clients have lost trust in their ability to make a decision.

The ability to make a sound decision is one of the biggest hurdles I see intelligent, overachieving women grappling with. This is my strategy for making a decision when I’m feeling stuck or feeling overpowered by the demands of others which may be clouding my better discernment. I ask a series of questions.

1. Is this decision leading me towards my highest vision for my life?

2. Will this decision contribute to the greater good?

3 Will this decision contribute in positive ways towards others?

4. Does my decision affect another being’s ability to choose?

If I can answer ‘yes’ to the first three questions and ‘no’ to the fourth, I feel confident to move ahead. Question four is definitely the most problematic for most women, because they value connection to others so highly. Affecting another person is one of the greatest hindrances to our capacity to play 100% towards the fulfilment of our dreams. The truth is, other people in our lives may choose not to agree with our decisions. They may choose to turn their backs on our decision or to simply take a step back or away from our lives. As long as we feel aligned with our own truth and contribution and we are not taking away their ability to choose, we cannot take responsibility for their reaction to our decision.

This week, I would love to hear all about how you make a decision.

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Lisa Fitzpatrick


  1. Jeanette on October 8, 2013 at 1:11 am

    Number 4! So true & relevant. Thanks Lisa for another mighty serving of your wisdom xo

    • Lisa on October 8, 2013 at 6:58 am

      Thanks Jeanette, it’s always lovely to know that it’s been helpful and it seems to be on ongoing theme for so many of us! xo

  2. Jessica Gabrielle McKay on October 8, 2013 at 3:47 pm

    Jeanette, this post is such a gift! Thank you for sharing your wisdom in this way. You really have a beautiful way with words, and I can feel the love emanating from your sharing. Reading this made my morning! Jessica

    • Jessica Gabrielle McKay on October 8, 2013 at 3:48 pm

      Um… I meant LISA!!!!! I must have been looking at the comment from Jeanette, above. 🙁

      • Lisa on October 10, 2013 at 9:40 pm

        Thanks so much Jessica 🙂 it’s lovely to have you stop by and I appreciate your comment

    • Lisa on February 28, 2014 at 5:56 am

      Lovely Jessica, it’s a pleasure to have you here and you’re welcome any time x

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