Have you ever felt like you have a calling but you keep pushing it away because you’re scared of what it means to step up?
There are always two doors in front of you. One is blue and the other is red.
Which one will you choose?
If you choose the blue door, you choose to be comfortable, for the time being anyway. You have a quiet sense that there could be and should be more, but you decide to settle in with the television remote or the trashy novel. You figure that if you’d had a better childhood, your husband was more supportive and that if you hadn’t been so unlucky with money, you might have had more of a chance. You hear other women you know complain about the same issues you have: not enough time, energy or money. You secretly, deep down, know that you could help and know that you could even lead them out of their pain but your own life is stuck. Besides, who are you to lead them anyway? You’ve always wanted to travel to beautiful locations and lead an exciting life but who really does that except the lucky few? You have a close relationship with excuses and blame, after-all they are legitimate and everyone else seems to be having a similar relationship with them. You feel like you might slowly wither away but it doesn’t matter because you’ve resigned yourself to the fact that this is how life is. Not so bad.
You decide instead to choose the red door. Your hand shakes as you open it. It feels scary but only because it’s a place you’ve rarely visited before. You’re choosing to step up. You make this choice because you can’t possibly go through the blue door, even one more time. You know you have a calling on your life and that no matter how scary it feels, you’re going through the red door no matter what. You are choosing to collaborate with others in creating a courageous paradigm shift where you take 100% responsibility for your life. You are choosing to step up and lead others along the thin red line. It is a straight, narrow thread and sometimes feels like you are walking on a tight-rope but here, life is exciting, a balancing act of epic proportions because you are literally walking on air. Sometimes, your stomach wants to do backflips when you look down and realise that you have chosen everything you see around you. But your heart is reassured when you realise that you’re not alone. There are others who are choosing to walk the same line as you. Some are in front and some are behind but all of them, every single one, has chosen the red door. They all have one thing in common: they are uncommonly inspiring people who you are proud to be on the same path with.
This week I was fortunate to be able to collaborate on exciting projects with uncommonly inspiring women who I’m proud to be on the same path with. Joining forces with powerful women who really understand what it means to walk through the red door is one of the best ways I know of to levitate your life.
This week’s guest article Needing Friends at Midlife is by the amazing Susan Paget from http://www.facebook.com/thechangeguru.net Susan is an inspiration to so many women who are facing the midlife transition fears that many women face once they hit 40. If I hadn’t chosen to walk through the red door, I wouldn’t have met Susan, nor would I have been open to stopping for a cup of tea and a chat in Melbourne on a conference that day.
If I hadn’t chosen to walk through the red door, I wouldn’t have been invited to take my children camping at Minnie Waters with my beautiful friend Liz Costigan from The Byron Yoga Lounge over the weekend, followed by an amazing bliss lunch to celebrate the amazing Ana Davis from Bliss Baby Yoga’s birthday at The Balcony. I most certainly wouldn’t be collaborating on a women’s yoga workshop presentation in Darwin with Alyssia Newton from Mukti Yoga in October. Nor would I be giving my heart and soul to my amazing, inspiring coaching clients in our breakthrough coaching sessions.
If I hadn’t chosen to walk through the red door, I’d be sitting in isolation, too frightened to unite with other women because I’d been too hurt by my past, too stuck in my serious depression and too full of excuses about how damaged I was. I’d be showing up as a cardboard cut-out of my true self, in so much pain, not knowing why.
Collaboration with others is one of the fastest ways I know of to keep walking through the red door at every stage of the decision-making process. Being held accountable because you followed through is all the more sweet when you have someone else to join accountability with.
What would it mean for you to walk through the red door?
How would you start showing up if you knew you were responsibility for creating 100% of your life?
Who would you need to be?
See you on the other side of the red door.