Do You Choose the Blue Door or the Red Door? How to Quickly Levitate Your Life

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Have you ever felt like you have a calling but you keep pushing it away because you’re scared of what it means to step up?

There are always two doors in front of you. One is blue and the other is red.

Which one will you choose?

If you choose the blue door, you choose to be comfortable, for the time being anyway. You have a quiet sense that there could be and should be more, but you decide to settle in with the television remote or the trashy novel. You figure that if you’d had a better childhood, your husband was more supportive and that if you hadn’t been so unlucky with money, you might have had more of a chance. You hear other women you know complain about the same issues you have: not enough time, energy or money. You secretly, deep down, know that you could help and know that you could even lead them out of their pain but your own life is stuck.  Besides, who are you to lead them anyway? You’ve always wanted to travel to beautiful locations and lead an exciting life but who really does that except the lucky few? You have a close relationship with excuses and blame, after-all they are legitimate and everyone else seems to be having a similar relationship with them. You feel like you might slowly wither away but it doesn’t matter because you’ve resigned yourself to the fact that this is how life is. Not so bad.

You decide instead to choose the red door. Your hand shakes as you open it. It feels scary but only because it’s a place you’ve rarely visited before. You’re choosing to step up. You make this choice because you can’t possibly go through the blue door, even one more time. You know you have a calling on your life and that no matter how scary it feels, you’re going through the red door no matter what. You are choosing to collaborate with others in creating a courageous paradigm shift where you take 100% responsibility for your life. You are choosing to step up and lead others along the thin red line. It is a straight, narrow thread and sometimes feels like you are walking on a tight-rope but here, life is exciting, a balancing act of epic proportions because you are literally walking on air. Sometimes, your stomach wants to do backflips when you look down and realise that you have chosen everything you see around you. But your heart is reassured when you realise that you’re not alone. There are others who are choosing to walk the same line as you. Some are in front and some are behind but all of them, every single one, has chosen the red door. They all have one thing in common: they are uncommonly inspiring people who you are proud to be on the same path with.

This week I was fortunate to be able to collaborate on exciting projects with uncommonly inspiring women who I’m proud to be on the same path with. Joining forces with powerful women who really understand what it means to walk through the red door is one of the best ways I know of to levitate your life.

This week’s guest article Needing Friends at Midlife is by the amazing Susan Paget from Susan is an inspiration to so many women who are facing the midlife transition fears that many women face once they hit 40. If I hadn’t chosen to walk through the red door, I wouldn’t have met Susan, nor would I have been open to stopping for a cup of tea and a chat in Melbourne on a conference that day.

If I hadn’t chosen to walk through the red door, I wouldn’t have been invited to take my children camping at Minnie Waters with my beautiful friend Liz Costigan from The Byron Yoga Lounge over the weekend, followed by an amazing bliss lunch to celebrate the amazing Ana Davis from Bliss Baby Yoga’s birthday at The Balcony. I most certainly wouldn’t be collaborating on a women’s yoga workshop presentation in Darwin with Alyssia Newton from Mukti Yoga in October. Nor would I be giving my heart and soul to my amazing, inspiring coaching clients in our breakthrough coaching sessions.

If I hadn’t chosen to walk through the red door, I’d be sitting in isolation, too frightened to unite with other women because I’d been too hurt by my past, too stuck in my serious depression and too full of excuses about how damaged I was. I’d be showing up as a cardboard cut-out of my true self, in so much pain, not knowing why.

Collaboration with others is one of the fastest ways I know of to keep walking through the red door at every stage of the decision-making process. Being held accountable because you followed through is all the more sweet when you have someone else to join accountability with.

What would it mean for you to walk through the red door?

How would you start showing up if you knew you were responsibility for creating 100% of your life?

Who would you need to be?

See you on the other side of the red door.

Lisa Fitzpatrick


  1. Jeanette on September 25, 2013 at 8:05 am

    Beautiful post Lisa. The Red Door – I think we get to a point where we can’t not choose the red door. Double negative – hope that makes sense! The Red Door is exciting. Love the accompanying pic too xo

    • Lisa on September 25, 2013 at 10:31 am

      That’s so true Jeanette, we definitely can’t choose the blue door when we know what it means to choose the red one. Thanks for being one of the many inspiring women in my life who is always holding the red door open for me!! x

  2. Caroline on September 25, 2013 at 9:08 am

    Hi Lisa,

    Excellent post, I think so many of us have sat behind that blue door for periods in our life and sadly many end up staying there, fearful of change or unaware that all they need is within them to open that door and continue beyond. It sounds like it’s been an amazing journey for you since you opened it, as it has for me, long may it continue. I agree collaboration is an amazing way to springboard into new and exciting things. Thank you for sharing.

    • Lisa on September 25, 2013 at 10:26 am

      hi Caroline, thanks for your insight: it’s so true that we can sit behind the blue door for periods of time and it can be such a blessing and quite lifesaving when we realise we have a choice. It’s so lovely to meet you here behind the red door! Many blessings, Namaste, Lisa

  3. Llinos on September 25, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    I could really picture myself stepping through that red door. And it felt empowering, scary and exciting!

    • Lisa on September 25, 2013 at 11:37 pm

      I’m so happy to hear that you stepped into the red door and I love it how you put empowering, scary and exciting in the same sentence. Thanks so much for visiting, Namaste

  4. Kim on September 26, 2013 at 12:38 am

    Fabulous post Lisa, I have sat behind that blue door for a while. But when I opened the blue door and walked inside, I felt scared but at the same time my heart said YES!
    I am so happy you have walked through the Red Door and are sharing your message in such a powerful way!

    Love Kim xxx

    • Lisa on September 26, 2013 at 1:36 am

      hi Kim,
      thanks so much for your comment. I watch you constantly walking through the red door and am in awe of your powerful messages to empower both men and women in their relationships. Thanks for being an inspiration!

  5. Billie on October 12, 2013 at 1:07 am

    I love how you described the red door. It’s so true – it’s extremely exciting, yet extremely scary. However, when one chooses the red door they just can’t help it. Faith and intuition keeps them going, as well as, surrounding themselves with people with the same dream. Thanks for the uplifting post.

    • Lisa on February 28, 2014 at 5:55 am

      Thanks Billie, I love it that you mentioned the importance of faith and intuition too. You’re so right about the need we have to surround ourselves with people who have the same dream as we do. Thanks for being such a warm, welcome and light presence on the blog x

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