Claiming Your Desires
One of the universal problems that is faced by women every day in their business and their lives is the guilt they feel around the fulfillment of their desires. So many women experience guilt because they have had it firmly implanted that it is selfish or unrealistic or both. Desire contains some important life-affirming and essential qualities for the successful execution of a business or a vocation. Asking yourself if you’ve allowed yourself to claim your desires can bring a mixed response if you’ve been depriving yourself.
The fulfillment of desire is not the same as being greedy as it is a natural reward for right action, or action that is aligned with your highest purpose. It is an act of self-love to accept fair payment for your services, to treat yourself to a massage or to take time out from a busy schedule. Your ability to align your life purpose with actions that bring reward and abundant remuneration is a skill very few succeed at. Is it possible that the high failure rate is because so many women don’t feel worthy of receiving the goodness life has to offer.
In the fabulous book The Big Leap Gay Hendricks talks about the upper limit problem many people have. The upper limit problem means that every time things appear to be getting better many people will self-sabotage. They simply cannot accept that life could be a cultivation and fulfillment of desire, abundance and beauty.
All clients who sign on for my coaching programs receive a copy of Gay Hendrick’s book as well as a number of other goodies.
Have you got an upper limit problem?
What would be one desire you could allow yourself to receive this week?
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I love it! The fulfillment of desire is NOT being greedy! So many people think that. What a wonderful and refreshing blog post! Thanks and keep up the great work!
Hi Tia, thanks so much for affirming that desire is not greedy. It’s so lovely that you could stop by and visit. I love the sound of violet sanctuary spa. Where are you located? Namaste Lisa
So true! Great post. Allowing wonderful things to happen is something I am learning to do slowly but surely! x
Thanks Jo, it’s so great to hear goddesses acknowledge themselves for all the wonderful things that want to come forth for them. Many blessings for all the goodness coming your way!
Hi Lisa,
This so resonated with me. Until very recently, and I’m 64, I had difficulty allowing myself to even “want”, (in the sense of desire) which impacted my ability to make choices, test my ambitions, go forward. The whole world of feeling worthy, proud of my achievements, confident of my right to desire, choose and go forward felt very unsafe to me.
Today, giving myself the right to self-love, to succeed, I see that I can and how different my life has become as a result. But the best thing is that the space where fear contaminated everything, there is air, place to breathe, see myself, and I like this woman living in my body! She has a right to desire, choose, decide, and succeed!
hi Noel, your post is so inspiring! I agree with you, knowing that you have the right to desire, choose, decide and succeed is such a journey. Your writing will definitely be a success with that belief at the heart of your mission! I’m really looking forward to reading your book of poetry and please keep in touch so that I know where I can claim my copy! Namaste, Lisa
Hi, Lisa,
this is so true on many levels. We are so often judged if we want something for ourselves, that we develop self-control and guilt. When in reality it’s the first step to loving and accepting others. I always tell the analogy with safety guidelines on the airplane – You can not help others if you don’t take care of yourself first.
Alenka